I will admit it, I am a "perfectionist." I get a little OCD with things... okay, A LOT! I use to hate admitting that, but now I know that being able to admit to my faults... are actually progress in itself. Saying those things out loud can be scary, but it is also building strength and growth (it's progress)!
Typically, when I start to get in my perfectionistic ways, I tend to lose myself, and my mental health takes a big beating (not good). It's something that's happened for years and still continues to, but the difference between then and now is that I've learned ways to look on the bright side and get out of my head. I've learned ways to help focus on the positive and remind myself that the little steps are just as important as the big steps we take! You're probably thinking "okay, what are your secrets?" Well, I got you!
Before I jump into to the things that help, I just want to add a little disclaimer. These are things that have worked for me personally and that I think may help you all as well! However, each person is different and what might work for one person may not work for another, BUT I hope you find these helpful in some way or another!
1. Post-it notes/graphics/wallpapers
WRITE IT DOWN BOO! I use to think this wouldn't work, but I was quickly proven wrong. Writing down little positive quotes and reminders have helped me snap myself back to those happy thoughts whenever I start getting too much in my head. Even my husband will leave me little encouraging messages here and there around our place and I've learned that something so small can actually be really powerful!
Personally, I also have positive quotes in the form of wall decor and even as a wallpaper on my phone! I mean, when you think about it, we all use our phones throughout the day, so having that wallpaper there right in your hand is a constant reminder! Some of my favorite places to get uplifting wallpapers are of course Pinterest & also @allthingslillyann on Instagram (she's so freaking talented)! Same goes for the wall decor because once you walk into that room, its right there for ya!
Sometimes we all need a reminder or maybe you're just more of a visual person (I know I am), so having the message right there in front of you helps keep yourself accountable and to allow you to keep pushing further!
2. Put the phone down
We've all been there. We all play the comparison game, we all feel extreme guilt if we go one day without posting, we all start to scroll mindlessly through social media. It's funny because once I hop on my phone, I have all the intentions of getting some work done, but sometimes it can be counterproductive and I'm left feeling like a failure. The connection we have in today's world through social media can be a great and beautiful thing, but it can also be dangerous if we don't define our own boundaries.
The best thing to do is to put your phone down, give your mind and body some time to rest and reset, and focus on something else. Go take a walk, spend time with your loved ones, read a book, draw a bit, or just watch some good ol' Netflix! Take at least an hour to let those bad vibes get the heck outta there!
3. Talk it out
There are days where I need help, and when I do, I always turn to my husband or close friends. Sometimes just having someone to listen while you vent a bit is just the medicine you need. Personally, I focus on having everything done, all at once, with perfect pictures and perfect captions, and I put so much unnecessary pressure on my shoulders. Emphasis on the word "unnecessary."
When I talk it out and put my thoughts into words (even if they are jumbled at the moment), I am able to take a step back and realize what I'm doing to myself and how it's effecting me. I hear it out loud and I'm able to stop myself in my tracks while also having someone to support me and make helpful suggestions.
4. Put on some music
If you're anything like me, music is soothing to the soul and gets the dance moves flowing! I'm going to let you in on a little secret here... I like to put on music and dance in my kitchen (yes, my wooden spoons serve as my microphone) hehe. You don't have to be silly like me, but even just turning on some music in the background while you work can be such a game changer! I use to hop on my computer and get caught up with "HAVING" to finish this and that.. I mean, yes deadlines and getting stuff done in a timely manner are important, but there's a fine line between being productive and overdoing/overworking yourself. Lately, I've been turning on some background music and it's really helped me loosen up. Music puts me in a better mood, and I have found that the work I do with music on has been some of my favorite creations!
Here are a couple songs that ALWAYS get me in a better mood / serve as motivation:
- "Don't be so hard on yourself" by Jess Glynne
- "Somebody loves you" by Betty Who
- "Came here for love" by Sigala, Ella Eyre
- "Never give up" by Sia
I am still learning every day. I am human and I know I'll still continue to have hard days, but I now know I have the choice in which way I choose to deal with my struggles and I have the power to turn my thoughts around. Having that "perfectionistic" instinct will be something I'll probably always have, but through these ways I have learned how to diminish it and lift myself up. I have learned that I don't have to do everything in one day and life is too short to overwork myself! We have to take it day by day and know that progress can be in many different forms. It can be getting a blog post up, getting an instagram post posted, cleaning the kitchen floors, getting a workout in, or even learning how to accept yourself as you are! Whatever gets you closer to those dreams of yours, it's progress!
Repeat after me: I am capable. I do not have to copy what others are doing. I do not have to overdue myself in order to be successful (Quality over Quantity). The small steps along the way are just as important as the big ones. I've got this. I am strong!
I want to leave you with something my friend Kristle (@kristlelauren) once told me, which has stuck with me ever since then & I hope it sticks with you... "Small growth is better than no growth."
You got this! I believe in you!
Talk to ya soon,
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